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In the past, I didn't date because every time I tried I was told I couldn't know because I hadn't done it or I was really just depressed or (because I am also trans) that I was only dysphoric."—Caleb/22/Trans "I've been dumped a few times for it because people aren't fond of the idea of not having sex, which is annoying because I might be attracted to someone, but I can't know unless they give me a chance to figure it out!My current partner was super wonderful about giving me the time I needed, and putting no pressure on me to have sex if I didn't want to. Finding a person who will accept you for being ace is the best part about dating.I just knew that I liked him and I tried to express that physically, but then I'd abruptly get uncomfortable, but not know how to express that.The mix of liking being with him but not always knowing what I wanted to do with him was extremely awkward and uncomfortable, and we finally decided to step back from the relationship for a while as I tried to figure myself out. I understand myself a lot better, and I want to have a closer relationship with someone, but I don't feel enough attraction to really know who to have that with.
"I only ever had one boyfriend and we broke up due to my asexuality without me yet realizing I was ace.
Initially, he took my disinterest in sex to be the same as a disinterest in him.
It took months and months of conversation for both of us to be truly comfortable with my identity.
Otherwise, it's quite hard." —Riley/20/Asexual "None of my partners ever believe [that I'm ace] because I do have sex, and they tend to chalk it up to being naive.
Usually, as the relationship progresses they get a better idea of what it means and how it works in a long-term relationship.